Stop Feeling Guilty Mumma, You are doing Fine!!!

Why are Mothers always feeling guilty about something or the other, despite of the fact that they are giving more than they are capable of !!!

#Story of a guilty but not that guilty mumma

When I was initially informed about my pregnancy, honestly i was not prepared for it #guilty. How could I be, it was just 3 months after my marriage, but watching my husband dance out of joy after i shared this news with him made me realise that this will surely be the Best thing to happen to the two of us.

During pregnancy when I was not able to eat certain healthy things because of how it smelled or tasted, again i felt #guilty .. But its difficult to express the nausea you go through during Pregnancy and it wasnt on purpose that I was hogging some Unhealthy food..

During delivery I had to go for a C- sec,  because of 3 cords being around my child’s neck, again #guilty.. For not taking the pain of delivering your baby in a natural way.. But believe me its only the operation part which is painless during a C-sec. After a couple of hours  it feels like the pain of stitches will kill you and you start believing that you will never be able to work normally ever again !!

After Delivery while my baby was able to latch on me easily .. She used to cry a lot and after 10 days I realised that I am not lactating properly and I have to start Top feed, again #guilty.. But i tried my best to increase my milk supply , tried all kinds of food items, medicines and powders available to me, but nothing worked and I had to stop feeding her after  just 1.5 months, again #guilty.. Though she is  healthy and had a proper weight gain even with complete top feed.. I used to feel so depressed about my baby lacking all essential nutrients and I felt like she wont be attached to me, because anyone can bottle feed her and she doesn’t need me..but Now she is 8 months old and she loves and needs no other person more than she needs me..

Soon after she learnt how to turn and started turning on both the sides, One of the days she fell from the bed and cried on top of her voice, again #guilty.. I tried my best.. Rushed towards her as fast as I could but I couldn’t stop her from falling.. But you cannot protect your child literally around the clock.. Sometimes this is how they learn and grow..

After She started Crawling and Standing with minimal support she often bangs her head into things .. # guilty guilty guilty.. Its not like i dont pay attention but I practically cant avoid some of these things from happening , and I feel this is how she’ll become strong..

Its just been 8 months and I already have a long list of my Guilty moments.. This is just the beginning, once we become a Mother we just want to be sure whether we are doing it right or not.. So, To all those Mothers out there (New or Old) full of guilt.. You are doing and giving your best.. If u want to be sure of that, just look at your Baby and it will instantly give you a huge smile in return.. That is the moment to know that you are doing it right !

About Anisha Agrawal

I am a Mommy to an 1 year old little munchkin.Before becoming a Mom, I was all about doing and learning loads of stuff either through classes or through virtual world. This habit of mine triggered me to make my Mommy journey creative and fun after spending 2 super busy months indoor doing mom duties. Also after becoming a mom, I realised there are so many things a Mother needs to do and I am Blessed to have many people around me who guide me through this. But then there are some Moms who lacks that guidance in their life, which inspired me to start posting informative stuff related to pregnancy and parenting. Also i came across so many Moms who don’t get enough time to research about parenting, hence i thought of doing all the informative researches and keep it to the point and easy to be done with minimal availability of stuff around them. So you can expect lots of tips, personal experiences, DIYs and much more. This Mommy is here for you round the clock !!
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28 thoughts on “Stop Feeling Guilty Mumma, You are doing Fine!!!

  1. Hey Anisha! My story is very similar. I am a diabetic, so there was guilt and fear to the level of infinity. I had a C sec too. Feeding issue started right after 1 month. My milk wasn’t sufficient for her. Again guilty. But, as you said, we shouldn’t be guilty. We make sure we do the BEST for our babies.

  2. Felt like reading myself, loved the article to the core. I too hav a guilt list which i keep locked inside my heart…

  3. Oh man !!! Mom Guilt never really leaves you . For everything you feel a tiny bit of guilt.
    But you need to leave that and focus on not really blaming yourselves for everything. And try to move on.
    Moms are nurturers ❤️❤️

  4. That’s so true and well put dear, we all mom’s try our level best to care and comfort our child but not everything is in our hands, I had both my gals from c section so I know how you felt, keep writing your thoughts ?

  5. Very nicely written anisha
    I have been in touch with u and u have always helped me out to overcome all the guilt!!

  6. Hey anisha, I can totally relate to your story…though my daughter is 5 now but still a day don’t pass wen u feel dat u hv done enough as a mother…motherhood is a continuous journey wid a new learning evryday….so v Shud stop doubting ourslf n tk a moment to Pat ourselves for d incredible job v r doing…dat is raising an independent n confident child.

  7. Yes it’s true and I think it happened with every mommy but the fact is we are very concerned about our little munchkins and can’t afford anything wrong for them… Well I loved this article and feeling not #guilty.

  8. So real and well written Anisha?.. I guess all moms can relate to this guilt. I too have a list?.. But this is how motherhood journey goes feeling guilty, overcoming it and doing the best for our kids.. So much love and hugs to all mommas..

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